No matter what, there will always be another exception- another party, celebration or special event that will give you permission to eat addictively if your head is not in the recovery space.
How can you maintain a “no matter what” attitude towards abstinence from drug foods & disordered eating behaviours so you protect your food sobriety?
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Unconditionally means choosing abstinence from drug foods and disordered eating behaviours, with or without an external outcome- such as weight loss.
Ask yourself, if I never lost a pound again, would I still want to be in recovery?
Would I still want to feel sober around food?
For a long time, I ONLY wanted to be in recovery, if I lost weight. The moment the scale would go up or weight loss would stall, I’d feel resentful, frustrated, and decide “What’s the point? I might as well eat.” I totally missed the point.
While weight loss may be a SIDE EFFECT of recovery, it’s not the goal.
Getting back into recovery this last time was because my food had gotten SO out of control, and along with it, my sanity, self esteem and body image.
I decided that I was going to get back into recovery unconditionally.
Regardless of what my body looked like.
Regardless of the number on the scale.
I am all in, fully committed to this- with our without a physical outcome.
I am doing this because it makes me feel good, healthy, sane and sober.
Abstaining from sugar, flour and processed foods is DEFINITELY not the norm.
We live in a society where everyone is so obsessed with fitting in, and being accepted- I guess this is a primal human trait. We are tribal beings who all seek belonging.
However if you have food addiction, trying to BELONG by eating foods that your body cannot tolerate is dangerous.
It’s not polite to eat someone just because someone offered or insisted you try it, if it will cause you physical, emotional, mental and spiritual distress.
You come first.
It’s crucial ahead of time to know that people WILL try to give you advice, suggestions, and solutions that work for them- around “moderation” and “not being so hard” on yourself.
They may talk amongst themselves.
They don’t know what’s best for you- only you do.
So ahead of time, you’ll just have get comfortable with the discomfort that people will have something to say, no matter what you do- but unless it’s supportive of YOUR recovery, it doesn’t mean anything.
So if you need to order a special meal at the restaurant, bring your sober food, or skip an event where you foresee yourself picking up, then you do you!
If you struggle with volume, and need to weigh and measure your food in public to help you feel sane, go for it.
Logically speaking, there is nothing wrong with weighing your food. The restaurant kitchen does it before they prepare and cook your food.
Food that is purchased at the super market is weighed and measured. So why aren’t you allowed to decide how much food goes into your body?
Especially if you know that you struggle with volume eating, and this is what you need to stay sane and sober?
People will think what they want to think, and you cannot control them.
In my recovery journey, I can sometimes eye-ball my quantities, but not always. In fact, the further along I am in recovery, the more vigilant I need to be.
I am a volume addict for sure- so sometimes I will need to bring my scale. This is still the scariest thing for me. I think “People will think I’m such a freak, or I have OCD.”
But you know what, I’m not.
I FELT and truly BEHAVED like a freak when I was bingeing, restricting, compulsively exercising to “manage” my food addiction.
This is a SMALL price to pay for sanity.
Food, especially social eating and “fitting in” can feel so important and necessary.
In the past, all the times I lost my food sobriety was in social situations. I wanted to fit in and be like everything else.
Well you know what? For all the normies, life went on. The meal ended and life went on.
But for me, ingesting those foods awakened the addiction.
I’d be looking for more food, secret eating, obsessing over where I can get whatever I was craving, thinking of how I can burn the calories off, etc.
“This too shall pass” has reminded me that whatever I am feeling or facing, will pass.
If you choose to eat, binge, purge, restrict- you won’t be able to be fully alive to the experience.
You won’t TRULY be “fitting in”.
You’ll be disengaged, distracted.. you’ll be in the food, obsessed with your body, you’ll be TRAPPED in a fake reality, or nightmare.
So whenever you feel like you want to indulge in drug foods or behaviours that seem like they will make the moment easier- know that “this too shall pass”.
And if you don’t pick up no matter what, you’ll actually be able to experience the moment, and experience serenity and sanity through it all.
“Abstinence from drug foods, and disordered eating behaviours is the most important thing in my life. I abstain from them because without them, I am free to experience ALL of life.”@radiantbodymethod
If you are curious around what it takes to get sober around food, check out my free Radiant Body™ Masterclass.
▹ Why you feel powerless over food
▹ Why it’s more than your mind or willpower
▹ The 5 Steps to Food Sobriety
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You can do this, no matter what.